Hw to get a real lover for ur self.when all talks in same way.?

i mean every boy do flirting in same way hw to com to kno that he really loves me.they talk in a way as if they love us bt whn we r abt to show our love feeling then they say watever i did i ws doing in frendship.i thought u ws my good frend thn hw to kno who really loves and who is flirting with girls?